Your Future Self

How to Make Tomorrow Better Today

Decoding the Art of Decision-Making: A Path to a Better You

Imagine this scenario: You’re sharing a cup of coffee with a stranger. This person knows your every secret, every decision you’ve made, the roads you’ve traveled, even your deepest secrets. Yet, you know nothing about them. Who is this person? It’s you, a decade from now.

How would this encounter influence your actions today? Would you hesitate before indulging in that extra slice of cake, considering its potential impact on your future health? Would you rethink that impulsive purchase, understanding the financial burden it might impose on your future self?

Our lives are in constant flux, each day propelling us towards a future inhabited by a version of ourselves that feels foreign and disconnected from our present selves. This gap often leads to decisions that satisfy our current selves but leave our future selves in a lurch. Despite this, we continue, driven by an inherent focus on instant gratification, largely overlooking the impending consequences.

But what if we could bridge this temporal gap? What if we could foster an empathetic bond with our future selves, shaping our decisions today for a more prosperous tomorrow? In this Summary, you’ll delve into the intriguing world of self-perception, identity, and the captivating interplay between our present and future selves. This journey will provide insights into the human psyche, empowering you to strengthen the connection with your future self, thereby making decisions that benefit not only the you of today but also the you of tomorrow.

The Power of Transformation: A Tale of Change

Pause for a moment and consider the story of Pedro Rodrigues Filho. Born into a world of violence, his skull bore the marks of his father’s wrath. Rodrigues Filho, who passed away in 2023, was a notorious serial killer, responsible for 71 deaths by 1985. Yet, his narrative didn’t culminate behind bars. He embraced fitness, literacy, and thanks to a legal loophole, emerged from prison in 2007 a free man. He adopted a disciplined lifestyle, shunned substances, shared motivational tales on YouTube, and mentored young offenders, professing a deep revulsion for his past self. He saw himself as reborn. This raises a profound question: Can we fundamentally alter our core selves?

Ponder your identity. Imagine if every cell in your body was replaced over time, but your memories remained. Would you still be you? What if your mind and memories were replaced by someone else’s? How many parts of you need to change before you’re considered a new entity?

Reflect on your journey. Certain traits have undoubtedly persisted since your childhood. Yet, your experiences have shaped you, your body has changed, and even your memories have evolved.

Philosophy alone can’t untangle this conundrum. The real world, as evidenced by a study by Professor Nina Strohminger, offers a different perspective. She asked caregivers of Alzheimer’s and ALS patients whether the individuals they cared for still felt the same. Interestingly, despite their failing bodies, the ALS patients, with their intact minds, were seen as more “themselves” than the Alzheimer’s patients, whose memories were fading. The real surprise came when Strohminger spoke to caregivers of people with frontotemporal dementia, a condition that leaves the body and memories intact but impairs moral and ethical behavior. These patients were perceived as the most alien, suggesting that our moral selves could indeed define our true identity.

So, reflecting on Pedro Rodrigues Filho, did he indeed become a new person? If we consider the concept of an essential moral self, then perhaps he did. But now, let’s redirect that spotlight onto ourselves. How do we view our future selves? Will we remain the same or transform into someone new? As we delve further, we’ll explore this fascinating aspect of our human existence.

Embracing Your Future Self

Picture immortality – an eternal youth, unbound, like a vampire reveling in the moonlight. Intriguing, isn’t it? Yet it presents an existential dilemma. How could we be sure of who we’d be in the face of such endless existence? Just like bringing a new life into the world, every moment births a new version of “us.” Our future selves, then, will forever remain enigmatic, shadowy figures in the hazy landscape of tomorrow.

Our perception of our future selves profoundly influences our current decisions. Imagine two personas – an extension of your present self and a brand-new individual. How you perceive your future self in this dichotomy will invariably color the way you act today.

Consider this – we typically act in our own self-interest. However, if we perceive our future selves as strangers, we might be less inclined to commit to healthy, helpful habits. Why say no to an extra slice of chocolate cake if it’s not your waistline that’ll bear the brunt, but rather that of a stranger? This detachment might also lead to indulgent spending or an inclination toward long-term debt.

When reflecting on the near future – say, your next birthday – most people are likely to use first-person pronouns, maintaining a sense of personal continuity. But when the event is 30 years away, the language shifts to the third person. One might attribute this to perception. Think of seeing two birds at a distance. Telling them apart might be challenging. Similarly, whether it’s “you” a decade from now or “you” in two decades, these future selves might seem to coalesce into one nebulous figure.

Our future self is blurry, almost ghostlike, while our present self is solid, tangible. Although our future self is not literally a different person, thinking in this manner can provide insights. Sacrifices for a stranger may seem illogical, but what if you began to see your future self as a friend or loved one?

Perhaps it’s time to shift perspectives. Instead of treating your future self as a distant figure, bring them closer. Consider them an ally, a friend, someone worth making sacrifices for. Maybe then, the “you” of tomorrow would seem less like a stranger and more like a loved one for whom you’d readily forgo that extra slice of cake, or reconsider rash financial decisions. After all, even if you could live forever, like a vampire in the twilight, wouldn’t you want the best for all your future selves?

Steering Choices for Your Future Self

Imagine a ship, steadfastly anchored to a specific spot. Despite the beckoning horizon and the call of the open sea, it remains tethered to its mooring. In a way, we are all like that ship. We’re bound by the concept of “anchoring” to our current selves and values, even when we know we should loosen the chains and sail into the future.

This metaphorical anchoring often leads us to make choices that are detrimental to our future selves. Presented with a choice between receiving $1000 in six months or $990 right now, most people would choose the immediate payout. But where is the tipping point? What amount of money would make waiting worth it?

This tendency to prioritize immediate rewards over future benefits can lead to problematic decisions, like sudden millionaires squandering their fortune. However, this picture changes when we remove the immediacy of the present. When asked to choose between $900 in a year or $1000 in eighteen months, most people display more patience and choose the larger sum.

This phenomenon is not limited to financial decisions. If asked to choose between a chocolate bar and a handful of healthy nuts to be received in a week’s time, many would opt for the healthier option. The allure of instant gratification wanes when the reward isn’t immediate. Is this because we find the future uncertain, sticking to the old adage of a bird in the hand being worth two in the bush?

The pull of the present is powerful because we are familiar with it. It’s magnified in our perception, and time seems to compress as we look farther into the future. A day in the present feels longer than the anticipation of a day spent on a task six months from now.

Just as a caterpillar slowly morphs into a butterfly, we often overlook how the individual moments of our present accumulate to create our future. If we don’t actively focus on our future selves, we risk making decisions in the present that could lead to future regret. So perhaps it’s time to weigh anchor and let our future selves guide us as we navigate the sea of choices that life presents.


The Art of Delay and the Road to No Regrets

Ever found yourself racing against the clock, like Mozart supposedly did with Don Giovanni? Or perhaps you’ve pulled an all-nighter before a crucial exam. Procrastination, my friend, is a universal vice. What we often overlook is the self-inflicted harm we cause by pushing tasks to the eleventh hour. The crux of the matter? Our struggle to visualize our future selves in high definition. This blurry vision of the future leads to a lack of empathy for the load we’re piling on our future selves.

But there’s a silver lining! A dash of forgiveness can work wonders. Pardon your past self for the unfinished tasks, and strive to comprehend your future self better to dodge the procrastination bullet. By doing this, you’ll not only lighten the load on your future self but also weave a stronger bond between your past, present, and future selves.

Ever said yes to a future commitment, only to regret it when the time arrived? Welcome to the yes/damn effect. Maybe you’ve felt it when you’ve RSVP’d to a party you later wished you hadn’t. The yes/damn effect mirrors our struggle to forecast our future emotional states – a common thread in decisions that lead to regret.

The same applies to regretting a tattoo. The meaning behind a tattoo might lose its luster over time. Or a rash decision made under the influence could result in a permanent mark that’s later regretted. It’s akin to packing the wrong clothes for a vacation. You’re aware your destination is warm, but because it’s chilly now, you fail to pack appropriately. This, once again, uncovers our struggle to connect with our future selves.

This struggle can be pinned down to two main biases. First, the projection bias – our inclination to believe our future selves will feel as we do now. Second, the end-of-history-illusion – our conviction that our personality and preferences will remain largely unchanged in the future. Both these biases fog our judgment, leading to decisions we might regret, whether it’s a tattoo we grow to dislike, or a romantic relationship that ends in heartbreak.

By acknowledging these biases and their effects, we can aim to make better decisions for our future selves. Ultimately, bridging the chasm between our present and future selves will help us make choices that we won’t rue later. Remember, the secret to sound decision-making is a lucid and empathetic understanding of your future self.

Tactics for Harmonizing the Present and Future

Imagine bumping into your future self, only to find you are discontent, stuck in a failing marriage, and in poor health. The question then arises, how can you avert such a future? How can you mold yourself into the best possible version of you? This journey commences by making your future self feel closer, more tangible, and more real.

Research suggests that we’re more inclined to help a needy family if we’re told the family has already been chosen, as they seem more identifiable, more real. This strategy can be repurposed for self-improvement. By penning a letter to your future self or creating a time capsule, you render your future persona tangible, compelling you to make decisions beneficial for them.

Try this mental exercise: envision your future, and then mentally journey back to the present. When pondering the future, use days instead of years as your unit of time – a perspective that’s simpler to grasp and put into action. However, merely visualizing the future isn’t enough. Following up with concrete steps and solid commitments is equally crucial. For instance, buying a 30-session gym membership signals your commitment to fitness.

But relying purely on willpower isn’t always fruitful. Sometimes it’s wiser to completely remove distractions for your future self. For example, you could lock your phone in a timed safe to ensure a period of undistracted work, thereby working in your future self’s favor.

Implementing immediate penalties for unwanted behaviors is also a potent motivator – like imposing a fine on yourself if you skip a workout. The sting of an immediate loss will then spur you to act in your future self’s best interest.

But sculpting a better future isn’t just about tough choices and sacrifices; it also involves making your present more enjoyable. If a task is daunting or unappealing, pair it with something enjoyable. How about listening to a captivating audiobook while working out, or watching a fascinating YouTube video while brushing your teeth? These are minor tweaks that can make mundane or challenging tasks more tolerable.

When faced with a daunting task, like a massive debt, break it down into smaller, manageable payments. It’s a more palatable strategy and easier on your current self, while still benefiting your future self.

Mastering the art of balancing the needs of the present with those of the future is crucial in this journey. By employing some of these tactics, you can build a bridge to a future where the best version of yourself awaits. It’s a delicate balancing act, but one that can lead to a rewarding future.


Recognizing and nurturing a relationship with your future self can significantly influence your present decisions, nudging you to act in ways that align with the best interests of your future self.

Despite our innate potential for transformation, acknowledging and embracing your future self can be challenging due to perceived distance and lack of tangible connection. This often results in a focus on immediate needs, sometimes at the cost of future well-being.

However, strategies such as visualization, time framing, tangible commitments, immediate consequences for unwanted behaviors, and enhancing the enjoyment of tasks can bridge this gap, fostering a healthier relationship with your future self. By doing so, you can encourage decisions that pave the way for a more fulfilling future.

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